I have a situation and need advise, a rant and a question

[Breezy]

Figured I would just make one post and make it easier on me lol.
First the rant. I just got my computer back not even 2 weeks ago from the mother board being replaced and the keyboard being exchanged.
Last night I went to close the lid and the sob poped and now my screen has a crack in it!!! So now I have to send it back again and it take another 3 weeks to get it back The kids laptop won't charge so I gotta send it in too. Which leaves me with dhs laptop again for our trip next week and the rest of this week. I HATE his computer even when I calibrate it the colors still seem off. UUUUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! I am 3 sessions behind, one being a wedding, all from the computer being out the first time. And the command is still giving dh a hard time about his leave.

Secondly my question. Someone suggested I contact Tamron about that lens that is backfocusing. Do you know the #? I contacted the 800 # on the website and had to leave a message, yet no return call.

Oh and another question just popped in my head. I had to file a claim with marsh. The guy called me back on Thursday said he would call me by Friday at close with the info as he didn't know how my policy is written, blah, blah, blah. I called yesterday evening left a message for him, just trying to know what is up with that. No word. Would you call again?


Now onto my situation.
I am a part of a non profit organization, that I think is for a good cause or I wouldn't participate obviously.
I am also a board member for said charity. So I get to have a say in how things are done.
We had to vote on some money being spent, I agreed to it but threw out that I thought we needed to have a meeting to discuss issues and questions. And that I was really tired of my questions and others going unanswered but if you are a select few you are put on a pedestal.
Well I got my ass chewed up one side and down the next for not just agreeing about the money and keeping my mouth shut about others. Things seem to be getting more and more unorganized as we go.
Not only am I a board memeber but I am also a regional coordinator which means even more time for charity. I am ok with that but not if I am going to be treated like crap KWIM?

Any way I was chewed out because the founder has been laid off (no mention of this prior) and that she is busy with a past event (should have been completed and delived overseas before yesterday). I was informed that my questions and concerns didn't matter and when she got around to them she would deal but until then she didn't care.

My concerns have a lot to do with the publics view of the organization which seems to be getting bad reviews as of late.

I am booked through Jan with some of these sessions. Would you put up with the BS, tell them to shove it, call the clients and suggest someone else or would you fullfill your commitment but take no more bookings and still tell the organization to "bite me"?

I got an "apolagy" but it really wasnt' if that makes sense and I refuse to respond as I am still so pissed off that I know I will say things that I will/might regret later.

And I did tell her how sorry I was that she lost her job etc... and I understand it must be tough etc... So I wasn't a heartless bitch or anything. As I am sure it is a very trying time for their family.
So I need suggestions.

[Cajungaltx]

You know.... I've never done 'shut up and sit down and do what your told' real well.

So I can understand. I was part of my husbands FRG in a leadership position until last year. The FRG leader quit, after the commander made a decision to merge the 'unit' Christmas Party into a Battalion Christmas party... with no discussion on logistics, or anything.

The FRG leader told him to take his FRG and stuff it.... did I mention that the FRG leader was his MOTHER IN LAW??? ROFLMAO... I loved the woman. So... he appointed the girlfriend of a soldier to the leader position.... who was a 'yes' person....

I won't get into the particulars, but I decided that for my sanity, and for the well being of my relationship with my spouse's military supervisors, that I'd better step back out of that problem in the making.

I don't do drama in volunteer organizations - it isn't worth it - the cause you are participating in should be drama enough.

That said - I'm going to guess - based on what I know (and the fact that I tried volunteering with an organization you currently volunteer with and had NO response to multiple contact attempts) that your offering sessions - photography sessions - as part of your volunteer arrangement with this group. I would probably step down from a leadership position - for whatever reason you want to say that will still let you participate in the organization as a photographer - and just be a photographer with them.

[Gabby498]

You have ranted. Life is not fair. Crap happens. You want advice from a really old person?

I once had a job that I detested, I felt very put upon until… I came to the realization that I could not change the situation I could only change myself. From then on I went to work each day with the understanding that I was working for myself. I only judged myself against myself not what others said or did. I knew they knew I was good at what I was doing or they would not have kept me around. I put out a hundred present and went home happy each evening that I had done my best, I had done some good. It did not change the work situation, but it changed my reaction to the situation and I no longer felt put upon. I didn't add to the situation, I simply made the best of an uncomfortable situation. Instead of fighting back I maintained my skills at a level that was recoginzed outside the company so that a competitor called and offered me a job. I took it.

Life sometime just has to empty its bladder and its hell when you're the one inundated. Just remember urine is sterile. Eventfully the bladder is empty and things will not be so bad. In the meantime just keep swimming upstream.

Simply put, do the best you can and know that you are giving your best. Then feel good about yourself regardless of what others do or say. Feel good about what you do that is charitable. Simply change your attitude about what is really important because you cannot change others.

If you tell them to kiss off are you really hurting them or are you hurting yourself? Which is more important the charitable work you do or the unsubstantiated belief that you got back at someone?

[Breezy]

Thanks Donna,
We sound a lot alike. And we are more than likely speaking of the same charity.
I have never been a sit down and shut up person lol. DH and I both joke that it sure is a good thing that he is the AD member as I would have been sitting in Leavenworth the first day of boot lol. And don't even get me started on FRGs lol. After I was told that I couldn't not "help" with the homecoming (which NOTHING was done for btw) because everything had to go through the CMC whom noone had met, nor had his contact info etc... I told them to shove it. And they still had the balls to ask me to be the FRG president even after telling them the Ombudsman postion would not work as I would tell some 18 yr old to shut up whining just cause she hasn't heard from her SO in 12 hours.
So yeah I think you and I would get along great lol.

Gary,
I understand where you are coming from and if it were a paid job and I had to have it to provide for my family, I might would put up with it for a bit. But I am always one to move on when crap like this happens, but then again the economy wasn't crap and jobs were abundant.

That said I have 2 other charities that I volunteer for but have not participated as I just haven't had time to do so and all 3 are dear to my heart. So I could still volunteer and know that i am doing good for man kind. I am sure I am overreacting to a degree as I don't take being told that my opinion etc... isn't worth crap.
The sad part is I have had over 24 hours to calm down and I am still pissed.

NicoleJones, I got a message that you tried to pm me, you can email me if you wish at navywifebreezy@gmail.com my inbox is always full on here.
Thanks again for both opinions, please keep them coming as I am still torn on what to do.

Breezy added 104 Minutes and 16 Seconds later...Double Post Merged Below

Dang that many people read this and only 2 have anything at all to say lol.
The insurance company called me back but he just got the policy and still doesn't have the an answer.

Any suggestions on the Tamron issue?

Breezy added 1974 Minutes and 28 Seconds later...Double Post Merged Below

I called Tamron back today and got my answer to that. Still waiting on the insurance guy. He was supposed to have called me back this morning. But he didn't. Go figure.
Still haven't made a decision on the charity. But we are having a meeting. I will be made my decision by then. It will be a long ride to NC so I am sure I will have plenty of time to think abou it.