Life sucks when you are stupid

[Debbi]

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[Daniel Bates]

I feel for you, Debbi - and yes, if you make a (DFW) GTG, they will come! I would be there in a heartbeat if it weren't for the whole 1400 mile road trip part.

[Cajungaltx]

Some days, ranting is just needed!

I think people make the same mistakes over and over, because they DO the same things over and over....and expect different results.

It took me quite a few relationships, and a divorce, to realize that what I was 'looking' for in a relationship, was something that I would NEVER find.

I was trying to fix unresolved issues that were caused by nothing more than how I was raised....and ultimately 'taught' to think.... my parents were a poor example of a healthy relationship... and most of my 'ideas' of marriage were based off of books, and what I 'thought' marriage should be.

Those 'expectations' that I 'internally' had... screwed with us BIG time... I wanted things from my husband... that he didn't know how to do... or simply would never OCCUR for him to do .... and the things he DID do... were overshadowed by what I 'thought' he should do.

He still drives me nuts... he's male... can't help it... but I know that he loves me...and you know what...

Life is like a roller coaster... ups and downs.... but I'd rather be on a roller coaster than a merry - go - round... lol...

I think you should DEFINITELY get out and meet people who like the same things you do.

If you never grow 'personally'... you won't grow as a couple... because your stuck where you are.

As someone wise said.... the difference between who you are today, and who you will be in 30 years... are the books you read, and the people that you meet.

[ADP Photography]

Originally Posted by Debbi

Why do people continue to make the same mistakes over and over? Why does love cloud your the judgment you were born with and grew up with? I've known my marriage was over - like a year ago - but continue to hope that it can be better. Maybe I was just born stupid - I don't know. I'm thinking we need more DFW get togthers so I can get out my hole and actually meet people who like the same things I do???? Maybe I should plan one - soon - would anyone actually show up? Like I said, life sucks when you stupid - or so I have been told - many times! Sorry for the rant.

Ansel Adams said your quote and I liked it so much as well that I have it on the back of my business card.


I would show up to a DFW get together... I've been wanting to do something with other photographers...

Now a bit of advice, be happy! Don't smack me okay... but the thing is that you have to find something or some way to have joy in your life, or you'll go nuts waiting on him to be happy with you or in your marriage. I'm sure you're not stupid, we all do stupid things... me included!!!! When you find happiness either he will come around or he won't, but the main thing is that you will be happy in the end... take care of YOU!

[Tom]

Originally Posted by ADP Photography

Now a bit of advice, be happy! Don't smack me okay... but the thing is that you have to find something or some way to have joy in your life, or you'll go nuts waiting on him to be happy with you or in your marriage. I'm sure you're not stupid, we all do stupid things... me included!!!! When you find happiness either he will come around or he won't, but the main thing is that you will be happy in the end... take care of YOU!

My fiancee and I have both been through depression at different times in our lives. Her after the death of her mentor, me as I recovered from nearly fatal dysentery.

Now years later, we have book looked back and unequivocially believe that what got each of us out of our depression was not antidepressants, friends, reading, entertainment, eating, TV, movies, etc. It was to "Fake it until you feel it."

When you were happy before, what did you do? Go do that. Even when you don't feel like it, go do it. For me, it was going to the theater, playing sports, jogging. For her, it was going to a coffee shop with a friend to read, singing, enjoying the outdoors.

But go fake it until you feel it. Enjoy yourself. And one day, you will wake up and realize you aren't faking it anymore.

[BigC]

My pet theroy is that of the Six Billion or so people on this planet. 98% are morons. 1% are to stupid to qualify as morons, and 1% are actually great people.













The above is just an estimate of corse.

[brad]

Debbi .. *hugs*

You can come see me anytime, you know. We'll just sit and drink coffee and you can rant at me all you'd like.

[Ahh!]

Originally Posted by brad

Debbi .. *hugs*

You can come see me anytime, you know. We'll just sit and drink coffee and you can rant at me all you'd like.

"If I wasn't such an old biddie, why, I'd just break down and cry!"

Having been clinically tested positive for stupid from time to time, I can tell you it is not always fatal!

[Concisus Cognatus]

Originally Posted by Cajungaltx

...I was trying to fix unresolved issues that were caused by nothing more than how I was raised....and ultimately 'taught' to think.... my parents were a poor example of a healthy relationship... and most of my 'ideas' of marriage were based off of books, and what I 'thought' marriage should be.

Those 'expectations' that I 'internally' had... screwed with us BIG time... I wanted things from my husband... that he didn't know how to do... or simply would never OCCUR for him to do .... and the things he DID do... were overshadowed by what I 'thought' he should do...

Wow!!! Would you please share this bit of feminine wisdom with the woman who asked me to leave after 32 years, because you summed it up very succinctly. Your husband is a blessed soul and you can tell him I said that.

[J Eddington]

Girlfriend, lets get together and have some FUN. You don't have to wait for a whole group. All you had to say is "I need to get out!"

[Debbi]

Thanks everyone and Janice, you are correct. Brad, you are such a sweetheart and I may take you up on the offer.

I think what is making all of this worse (yes, it is possible) is that I haven't picked up my camera this year. I broke my ankle on Jan. 1 and I'm still relying on a crutch and fracture boot. Not having my "therapy" is really messing with me. Who knew that it would take absolutely months to recover?

But, I do know that I cannot let this go on. I told him this morning that it's time for him to move out. This has been going on since August and it's time to make the hard choices. It's just too hard to know that it's over but nothing has changed and it's confusing as heck for our son. Monday is our anniversary but I'll be spending it with my attorney. How fun.

[toverman]

Sorry to hear you're going through this, Debbi. Love is supposed to cloud our judgment, and it isn't too much to expect a sunny day when the clouds part. Sadly, storms are still there sometimes.

I've taken some of my best shots sitting or laying down (sometimes in fire ant beds, how stupid is that?). When you can, take your camera out and take photos of something. Heal your ankle, heal your heart, make some new friends!

[Howard Barlow]

Originally Posted by Debbi

Why do people continue to make the same mistakes over and over? ...

To quote Homer Simpson, "Why do things that happen to stupid people keep happening to me?" It is a method I live by.

Originally Posted by Cajungaltx

I think people make the same mistakes over and over, because they DO the same things over and over....and expect different results.

To quote Einstein, "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

To quote Homer Simpson and Albert Einstein in the same post... Priceless.

[ka5txl]

Originally Posted by BigC

My pet theroy is that of the Six Billion or so people on this planet. 98% are morons. 1% are to stupid to qualify as morons, and 1% are actually great people.
The above is just an estimate of corse.

That is the nice thing about TPF most of us are all in the top 1% although we all have moments when we could qualiy for the bottom 1%

Donna, all I can say is priceless

[sandy_ruotolo]

I'm sorry Deb, that things aren't going well. And I can understand the need to rant, I'm in Philadelphia, but if you need someone to rant too, I'm here. I've been in my share of troubled relationships, that didn't work out the way I thought they should have. For a while I blamed, me, but came to realize I'm only 50% of the problem. I think it taught me to move away from being serious, my philosphy now is keep it friendly, but don't get serious, and start making funny predications like we should settle down. I think it works out the best for me, but I'm not sure if it works for everyone.