Qwerty:
Think of exposure as a hotdog. The whole 'dog represents proper
average exposure, with the middle as the mythical "perfect" exposure, with shutter speed and f/stop balancing equally on either side. Let's say the metered exposure is F/8 at 1/125 sec. And the DOF includes a biker babe, where age, overeating and gravity have won the battle, wearing Daisy Duke shorts, sporting a large butterfly tattoo centered on her navel.
Now, say you, "I don't
want to include that!" If you wait ,the "moment "will be forever gone.
Soooo... to blur the unwanted object, you quickly open up your lens (open up= larger diaphragm aperture, smaller number, lets more light in.) to f/3.5 or 2.8, but, to achieve proper exposure, you have compensate by increasing your shutter speed, so the exposure is again balanced, with the same amount of light striking the sensor, and falling within the hotdog.
Again, "proper" exposure, but controlled to eliminate Madame Butterfly, or at least, make her less...ummm...obtrusive.
A combination of any shutter speed and f/stop anywhere along the hotdog will produce a properly exposed photograph.
I hope this helps some. Photography is a magical pastime, but does require some skull sweat, at least at first. Now, go take some pictures!
