dtscds,
I don't know the exact look your searching for, but below is one option maybe.
I did not enhance contrast whatsoever. When I used levels, I then used EDIT > Fade and change the blending mode to luminosity. That reduces the harshness, I think anyway.
The skin is just neat image, and I avoid the eyes and hair. I guess I blur the skin and sharpen the hair...
There was a little tungsten color shift that I thought I saw as well.
It's just my observation, but the most common mistake (by far) is over doing it. Blending the original image back in to the final might help sometimes.
Sometimes we need to choose between flattering and accurate, it just depends on our goals I guess.
Anyway, one option....
{EDTT:} Really nice lens by the way, I like the crispness.