April
I applaud your effort to understand this problem.
Don't shoot wide open if you can help it. It's kind of like getting your eyes dilated, everything is fuzzy and has a halo.
Apply the sunny 16 rule when outside in the bright sun. I'd even subtract 1/2 stop if I'm dealing with a white dress.
Shooting RAW will help. Underexpose rather than overexpose. You can fill with flash. I.E. If your sunny exposure is f16, shoot at f22 and use your flash. Watch for flash synch. If you understand the relationship of aperture vs. shutter speed, you can adjust accordingly.
Don't shoot with any of the automatic settings. The camera has a wonderful computer, but that's all it is. It's calibrated to take the average situation and make it more average. In extreme situations it just makes them BLAH.
